So I'm the queen of being blunt.....or so i thought. I started hearing i was too blunt when i was in JSS1 and since I've gotten older I've tried to think about what I'm about to say and how i say it so i don't hurt someones feelings. I'm not successful all the time but I'm not a mean person by any means. I just say what I'm thinking how I'm thinking it.
Today, I decided (since the conversation gave me a great opening) to tell a toaster that i wasn't attracted to him. I was trying to spare his feelings so i said it in an indirect/direct manner. I said, "i don't know if I'm attracted to you" and added some other window dressing statements so i don't sound like a devil. I shouldn't have bothered about trying not to hurt his feelings because he responded by saying" Well, I'm not interested in you like i used to be. I don't know why, maybe because I'm pessimistic about the whole thing. If i was as interested as i used to be, i would have been calling you everyday. So if you tell me tomorrow that you won't date me, i wouldn't really care". Now, that's just rude. At least, i tried to sugar coat what i was saying. He didn't even bother. The only reason i even talked about my not being attracted to him was because he said he could never be with someone he wasn't attracted to. That he wouldn't even make the effort to get to know them, meanwhile i was making the effort for him and his egg head and widely spaced teeth. Idiot!
Chei, chei, chei, chei, chei.......I have suffered. Me! Ok! As he was talking, i couldn't believe my ears. This is someone that i have been managing and using my church mind to talk to. He now has the mouth to be telling me!!!! that he is not as interested in me. As soon as he finished spouting that nonsense, i just made my excuses (which he didn't believe) and got off the phone. I hope he enjoyed all the times he got to hear my voice, because today was the last. Since he is no longer as interested, i will help him make sure he is not interested at all. Idiot oshi!
This is why i don't even bother trying with these fools.
P.S. Apparently, when school is in session, all i talk about is school and when I'm out of school, all i talk about is relationships. What kind of blogger does that make me?
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.....a unique blogger!..hahahaha @ egghead....sometimes bluntness do pay off o!.urgrh! @ him! *rises fists*..hahhaha..no mind am o jare.
ReplyDeletelol as a real life fellow blunter, if we dish we shuld learn to take o (altho i think boy was just trying not to fall his hand). but i feel u on dat one cos dere r times wen i say let me tone it down to consider their feelings cos im using church mind but then they come back with an off d mark something nd in my head in like "cos i managed to pity u abi ur feeling like a hot sturvs..hisss...try me next time foul"......but as dey say, its not really wat u say but wat d oda person hears dat counts
ReplyDeleteLmao!!!! sorry i had to laugh first,as for the dude he can take a piss joh just cos u wer trying to spare his feelings "sighs" it is well :)
ReplyDeleteLMAO...that guy was only saying that to piss you off my dear. Trust me, i've gotten enough "b***h you aint that cute anyway" comments to know when someone is masking the fact that you have hurt their 'toasting' feelings.
ReplyDeleteLol Sting. Don't mind him, jor. You're a student/relationship blogger. Lol.
ReplyDeleteit hurts to be paid back in our own coin jor...I think dude was just trying to make himself feel good.
ReplyDeleteI know this feeling, I have been tagged the cynic of the family, because I always have something to say and everyone says I don't say them nicely.
e dey happen, dude's loss...enjoy yourself.
Lolz guy just wanted to make himself feel better jor if not he would have left long time ago
ReplyDeleteI think the guy was just trying to cover his bruised ego. He wanted to hurt you before you had the chance to hurt him
ReplyDeleteatilola.blogspot.com
As in......
ReplyDeleteA life blogger, as in you blog about your life :-)
ReplyDeletexxx
Makes you a focused blogger. You blog about what you are focused on at the moment.
ReplyDeleteLMAO @ your toaster.
A cool blogger
ReplyDeletebuhahahaha! u dey vex o!
ReplyDeletemakes you a human blogger, lol
ReplyDeletethe guy was just trying to save face
ignore him jare
ok so the conversation was about the fact that he cannot be with someone he is not attracted to ...how does that transpire into a chance for you to tell him ure not sure if ure not attracted to him...im sure theres more to the convo that u have not written cos if there isnt more i see why the guy vex na..im sure he was thinking...se me see trouble oo im tellin her i cannot go out with someone im not attracted to she come dey use that opportunity to lay me off lightly ...i might as well hit her hard before she thinks im attracted to her..lol...funny story and yes whilst ure at school u blog about school and how u have to read too much and when ure not at school u blog about not bein normal..lol not goin out with friends and relationships...we love u anyways thts why we still come bak
ReplyDelete@Barefeet: I did not leave anything out of the conversation. I felt like i had to tell him i wasn't attracted to him because he's telling me he cannot be without someone he's not attracted to, meanwhile i'm going out of my way to talk to him even though i'm not attracted to him. I know he's attracted to me because that's how the whole attraction conversation started in the first place.
ReplyDeletebwahahaha...tehehehe...lol.
ReplyDeleteSo sorry, I had to let the lafta out...I know this ain't funny to you but bwahahahahahaha...
It's a give and take world gurl...u give blunt? U get blunt.
@tilola said it right though...bros was just trying to save face.
Hahaha that's how all these guys get when someone rejects them. There was one guy that asked my friend if I had a boyfriend so he could ask me out. I told my friend to tell him that I wasn't interested and then he got mad and said that if he knew I was African he wouldn't have even asked me sef. I was like wow!smh..
ReplyDeleteSometimes I think it's good to reject a guy (even if you like him)just to see his reaction cause that can tell you a lot about him.
lmao at his egg head and widely spaced teeth. some guys jst dnt know how to take rejection well.
ReplyDelete..that makes you a real blogger dear, lol @ your toaster
ReplyDeleteLOLsss. How did i miss this post yesterday. So you wanted him to take your sugar coated rejection and say "thank you sister Sting" lol Sauce for the goose.....
ReplyDeletelol. The guy is trying to save face, allow now! Now he will see where he will throw the remaining interest. You're a life blogger.
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