Alright guys, i need you to help me figure this one out. I understand the concept of forgiving but not forgetting. Makes perfect sense to me. Although i am of the opinion that true forgiveness also includes forgetting, but i understand when people say they have forgiven someone but haven't forgotten. My question for you guys is, how can you be mad at someone but say you have forgiven them? Those two things don't go together in my book. I'm mad at you but i have forgiven you o_O. I am confused.
When you forgive someone, doesn't it automatically mean you are no longer mad at them? Help me out here.
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You can definitely forgive and NOT forget. For me at least, forgiveness is a conscious decision. That means my emotions do not always follow suit sometimes. But I find that making it a DECISION to forgive helps sometimes. So the anger/disappointment/hurt dissipates faster when I remind myself that I have forgiven the person.
ReplyDeleteIn most cases, with time, I also forget. In a few times, I have not forgotten, and I will not forget. In those cases, forgiveness is about letting go of the hurt associated with the memory and any anger or ill will connected to person/issue.
I totally understand to forgive and NOT to forget. But I think the forgetting comes after a looooong time. To forgive and still be mad though? Nah, if you're still mad, then you haven't forgiven.
ReplyDeleteI think God is the only one that can forget COMPLETELY when he says he forgives us because thats what the bible says.
ReplyDeleteAs humans i dont think it is easy to forget if not we might get hurt again in the process. forgiveness to me means i am not holding what you did wrong against you, it doesnt mean I will allow you to hurt me again e.g a boyfriend that beats his girlfriend. forgiveness in my dictionary should mean she frees herself from the hurt of what he did but doesn't mean if he says "give me a second chance" she should go back to him. That is stupidness as far as I am concerned
I feel like i just rambled but hope something made sense in what i typed.
And to answer your question No you can't still be mad at someone and say you have forgiven them.
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ReplyDeleteForgiveness is a decision, you gats to work on the forgetting. Time will help as well as how the forgivee is behaving, ie if they're truly repentant.
ReplyDeleteYeah... I've forgiven someone before, but i still feel hurt whenever i remember the pain.
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ReplyDeleteWhen we are really hurt by someone close to us, it takes the grace of God to forgive and forget. Whenever such happens to me, i ask always ask God to help me forgive the person and it works. Besides there is a place in the bible which says we should forgive those who offend us 70 x 7 times i think....
ReplyDeleteI think forgiveness is a process so it makes sense to me that you can decide to forgive and still be mad. It takes time to let go of anger and hurt. When you finally manage to get over those feelings, you might never forget what happened but you don't hold it against the person or punish them for it any longer.
ReplyDelete. . . and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.e forgive those who trespass against us.
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ReplyDeletei dnt think u can forgive someone and still be mad at them for the same thing.. if you're still mad, u probably havent forgiven them yet.
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ReplyDeleteForgiveness is a choice that we make for our sake more than the other person. Being angry and hurtful is destructive to the hater. Forgetting is not possible & one should not forget. We need that awareness
ReplyDeleteWe have the ability to decide to forgive and somehow that decision frees us. It becomes easier to forget; not forget the actual event or circumstances, but prevent that painful circumstance to affect our future dealings with a similar situation or with the author of whatever it is that hurt. And maybe some things are not meant to be forgotten and the pain we feel as we think about it serve as a cautionary reminder to never, as much as we can, put ourselves in circumstances that can precipitate a similar similar situation to reproduce itself... Not sure it makes sense to other stingers lol. Sorry... I have a headache re-ready it myself lol. Foooddd!!!!----->>>> sizzlingsasi.blogspot.com
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