Quick question, how old do my nephew/nieces have to be before i expect them to know/remember/acknowledge my birthday if they want me to remember/acknowledge/get gifts for them for their birthday? This issue first came up over the summer cos my niece who turned 16 last year was upset that i didn't get her anything for her 16th birthday. First of all, i couldn't AFFORD to buy her anything (I reside firmly in brokeville right now, well i could have sent a card but i think i had exams or something and that wasn't what was worrying me at that time. Besides, I've never just gotten her a card), secondly, i told her she didn't even call me on my birthday which is less than 2 months before hers. My sister (her mom) said i was the adult so it shouldn't matter. I don't know o. I kind of think it matters cos 16 years old is not a baby anymore. Her birthday is coming up this week, and it got me thinking of it cos i still didn't get a call this year for mine, i don't even think her and her siblings (all between the ages of 16 to 13) know my birthday. When i worked and had money, they got gifts and all that good stuff. I already have a box with purses and a couple of dresses to send to my niece who is about to turn 17 (she's not my oldest niece, btw, i told u i have plenty of sisters :), but i can't help but wonder when do i start expecting her and her siblings to acknowledge my birthday if I'm going to be sending them gifts. I'm just saying. All I'm asking for is a phone call saying "Happy Birthday, Auntie". Is that too much to ask?
**OMG you guys, I can't believe it's Dec 5th and it has not snowed once. I am ecstatic and can't believe it cos it starts to snow as early as October in these parts. Me and my friend from TX shush each other when we start to talk about it cos we don't want to jinx it. I just can't believe it. Is it global warming or what? Anyway, i LOVE it. I'm just scared cos i think it might be payback time when we come back in January. There was a blizzard Jan of this year when school had to be closed. I repeat, school had to be closed on an exam day for that matter. Do you understand that they never, ever close down my med school (based on the you are going to be doctors bullshit and you need to learn to deal with difficult weather), but they closed down school. It was crazy. My car was snowed in and my friend has to dig me out. I need to get a shovel.
Are any of you experiencing unusual weather too?
P.S. I'm not upset at my nieces or nephews, i'm just curious.
Since i got a couple of comments from an IDIOT! Let me clarify the purpose of this post. I don't have kids so i have never parented before, but i think when i do have kids i would raise them to be (for lack of a better word) considerate. I am not WAY older than my nephews and nieces, so i think if they expect/demand presents from me, the least they can do is wish me a happy birthday since they are getting older. The thought never crossed my mind when they were younger. Now, if that makes me an AGBAYA, i guess i'll just be an AGBAYA. Thank you. It's allowed.
**OMG you guys, I can't believe it's Dec 5th and it has not snowed once. I am ecstatic and can't believe it cos it starts to snow as early as October in these parts. Me and my friend from TX shush each other when we start to talk about it cos we don't want to jinx it. I just can't believe it. Is it global warming or what? Anyway, i LOVE it. I'm just scared cos i think it might be payback time when we come back in January. There was a blizzard Jan of this year when school had to be closed. I repeat, school had to be closed on an exam day for that matter. Do you understand that they never, ever close down my med school (based on the you are going to be doctors bullshit and you need to learn to deal with difficult weather), but they closed down school. It was crazy. My car was snowed in and my friend has to dig me out. I need to get a shovel.
Are any of you experiencing unusual weather too?
P.S. I'm not upset at my nieces or nephews, i'm just curious.
Since i got a couple of comments from an IDIOT! Let me clarify the purpose of this post. I don't have kids so i have never parented before, but i think when i do have kids i would raise them to be (for lack of a better word) considerate. I am not WAY older than my nephews and nieces, so i think if they expect/demand presents from me, the least they can do is wish me a happy birthday since they are getting older. The thought never crossed my mind when they were younger. Now, if that makes me an AGBAYA, i guess i'll just be an AGBAYA. Thank you. It's allowed.
When I started reading I was like, "ahn ahn Madame Sting free the children" but then I saw 16 and my eyes went O_o. At that age, I think they should be able to remember and at least make a phone call if they want to expect anything for theirs but then again, at that age I think we are all too wrapped up in our own lives to remember birthdays of others. Sha send her the stuff and be a forgiving auntie :-) Good luck on exams!
ReplyDeleteAt 16, I think a phone call is appropriate.... present, not so much. I actually find is weird buying presents for family members who are older than I am.
ReplyDeleteLOL @ presents. That would be asking for too much and i don't want presents from them o, those are my babies. Just a text or phone call would suffice.
ReplyDeleteThe only person I buy present for is my favorite aunt who loves anything that smells good, other than than, nothing o! Just happy birthday.lol
ReplyDeleteI think 16 is old enough, especially if she has a phone. But in another sense, aren't they covered by their mother? Once your sis calls, do they still have to?
ReplyDelete@myne: I don't buy gifts for their mother, neither does she expect me to, so I don't think they are covered by their mom. Yes, they all have phones. It's just the thought that counts.
ReplyDeleteHmm, i guess it depends on the level of closeness and it appears y'all are close.
ReplyDeletepersonally for me family or no family i have learnt not to expect anyone to remember my birthday that way I don't get dissappointed. na true o
but i make it a duty to remember family and friends birthdays...
Keep being a nice aunty...hopefully they will come around one day :)
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ReplyDelete"Do you understand that they never, ever close down my med school (based on the you are going to be doctors bullshit and you need to learn to deal with difficult weather" - Nigerian Scorpio
ReplyDeleteThats what we signed up for... o ni yeye!!!!. ...
@Dblogedition: Why did u delete your other two comments? I saw them. You are a PUNK for that. You are the agbaya for not understanding the reason behind the question.
ReplyDelete"We" did not sign up for anything or are u in my med school. I wasn't complaining that they don't close down my school. I said that to illustrate the severity of the blizzard, you stupid fool.
LOL. I totally understand. My family is mahoosive and i have loads of cousins who are not that much younger than I am and I'm always expected to cough up on their birthdays when they have no idea when mine is even.
ReplyDeleteI've learned to suffer in silence
Your post made me realise that i have loving nieces and nephews. They always remember their auntys' birthdays and call (they steal/borrow their moms phone to make the call). I fact most times they are the ones who remind their Mom. So i guess its not a function of age. just attitude
ReplyDelete@TWP: Thank you jor. You are a correct human being.
ReplyDelete@Ginger: Thank you. I thought i was the one with the problem for thinking along those lines.