(non) Virgins?

 Warning: explicit post alert

I was talking to a friend not too long ago, just gisting about general stuff. We started talking of his friend who was a virgin but pretty much had done everything (else).

 Ok, you guys should help me figure this out. I will have to be explicit, so please brace yourself. So this chic has pretty much been fingered, licked from head to toe, given and received oral but because she hasn't had penis to vagina penetration she can still claim virgin status and be proud about it too, like she achieved something. Something is just not right with this picture, at least to me.

How about a friend whose culture pretty much said, you sleep with a guy, you marry him or rather you better not sleep with a guy or you get killed if your father finds out. So this chic, with her hijab and all, you will never ever suspect she was as "sexually" experienced as she was, even going as far as anal sex. Yet, she was a virgin!!! o_O

Ok! Call me old school, sexually repressed, unadventurous or even a prude, but i think anal sex is a bigger deal than vaginal sex. Oh my Jesus, i don't even want to imagine it. Let's not talk about all the complications with that. My sister is a nurse and she tells me stories (hint rectal abscess). Just reminds me of the expression my friend used to describe a particularly bad exam "Raped in the ass without lube or condom". he he..... i know that's neither here nor there, but i think that expression is very apt in certain situations. Anyway, back to the anal sex thing. How can someone who has experienced the joy or sorrow, or just the experience period (ewwww) of anal sex still open their mouth and say that they are virgins?

This thing is not making any sense to me o. I guess this brings me to the definition of virginity. From my observation, i guess different people take it to mean different things, some are even liberal enough to expand the definition to include whatever makes them sleep better at night. Okay o!

If we only want to include penis to vagina sex to rid you of your virgin status, then that means all lesbians who have never been with a man, but have had sex with women are virgins them? I think even they would disagree with me. This is where having a lesbian friend would have been useful, but the only one i'm on speaking (hi hello) terms with, would probably think i've lost my mind if i dared approach her with such a topic.

Long and short of it is, i really couldn't care less what someone's status is, virgin o, none virgin o, that's your problem but what i do have a problem with is the people who like to deceive themselves and decieve others in the process. That i have a problem with and i will say something about that because as far as i'm concerned you are practicing reverse hypocrisy (don't bother googling that, i just made it up).

As far as i am concerned, if a man has been all up in your honey pot, either with his fingers, his lips or his tongue or you have touched and have been touched in very private places (apparently both back and front these days), sucked and have been sucked, paraded in your birthday suit in front of a man, amongst other things then you are not a virgin!!!  Stop lying to yourself. You can call yourself that all you want, and that's allowed too but stop disgracing yourself by telling people that you are one, then still telling them of your sexual escapades with the same mouth you used to suck someone's dick the night before.

That's my 2 cents. What's yours?

P.S I'm done with exams. They tried to kill me, almost succeeded but i'm a strong African woman. Home for spring break with my boo boo, love of my life, sweetheart, my heartthrob (according to kitkat), the one and only Izzynator, my 18 month old niece :). and i'm loving every second of it.