Close your legs to married men

I don't think i'm supposed to go where am about to but i am going to because it's bothering me, just like it bothered me today when the lady working the jewelery department at Kohls' acted like i was going to do a grab and dash. Last time i checked, i don't look like Lindsey Lohan. Since it bothered me so much, i had to call and complain to the manager after i got home because my annoyance wasn't going away. So you see, i'm a doer. I have the dubious honor of being the most "rash" person my friend knows in the sense that when something bothers me, i have to do something about it.

So a blog for most people is a sanctuary and the anonymity it provides (especially for most Nigerian bloggers, including yours truly) gives us the ability to be completely honest. Well, i can no longer claim anonymity and i have a good number of people who know me in real life, know that i run this blog. In fact, my friends know and read this blog and i have made non-blogger friends through this blog (Hi Dartmouth aka Okon's houseboy or something).

Anyhoodle, I've been blogging and reading blogs since 2007 and i've seen all types of blogs. Blogs written by aristo chics , people who have been sexually abused, etc etc. I enjoyed reading some of these blogs because they taught me things i would otherwise not have been exposed to. I learned about how silent our Nigerian community is on the issue of sexual abuse (coincidentally, Vera's radio show is going to be talking about that this coming Saturday). For the most part, i would like to believe that I'm not judgmental but there are some blogs i have landed on that have left me speechless or full of judgment aka passing judgment even though no one died and made me God. Although, i think it is really a case of "not understanding" more than anything else.

My motto in life is live and let live and i really believe that and practice that in real life. Funny how i was asked that question in one my med school interviews by the 3rd year who interviewed me and that's exactly what i said. I believe that life is too short and too difficult that you need to let people do what makes them happy unless it involves killing people, raping children and things of that nature. All this long story is just to say that i stumbled on a blog today that has left me o_O.

The aristo chic blog i mentioned earlier did not shock me, however, i was disgusted with majority of bloggers who pretty much gave her a pat on the back. I was disgusted because i figured if these same people knew this chic in real life, they would not be so quick to condone her lifestyle and would most likely be the ones talking about her behind her back. I just didn't like the hypocrisy of it all.

Blogs that talk about sexual excapades and go into great details...........for the most part i don't read. I don't even read sex scenes in novels (and i started reading mills and boon in JSS1) because as far as i'm concerned long and short of it is "they had sex". I don't need to know the details, not remotely interested. Same reason i have never read a book by Zane, just not my thing.

Blog by a mistress? Speechless. I just am. Maybe i should be more open-minded but i have strong feelings when it comes to that. I always put myself in the wife's shoes. How can you justify being with a married man? You don't do single men.......blah blah. Some statements in that blog just rubbed me that wrong way and she had the effontery to pray for the wife. Like i commented on that post........."wowzers and not in a good way".
This is not the first blog by a mistress i have stumbled on, but for some reason, this one just rubbed me the wrong way. Maybe because i just blogged about how to deal with a cheating husband.

With all that being said, i still believe people should be free to blog about what they want. Nobody is forcing me to read any blog, so i'll just continue to read or not read and zip it on blogs i don't " like". I am probably going against blog etiquette by blogging about this, but whatever.

"Close your legs to married men" - Nene Leakes