However, i would like to go on record to say that anyone who mentions my name or refers to me for something that i am innocent of, just know that you will live the rest of your life being a victim of false accusations you will never be able to overcome. As far as i know i am innocent, and you accuse me falsely, you are now the recipient of a curse. I am sick of the bullshit.
So be very careful before you mention my name and attribute anything to me. That said, I will no longer allow myself to be irritated by stupid shit and stupid people. Eya and her blog readers ain't about shit. She knows and I know. She really believes i was attacking her anonymously.
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People need to fall back and leave me the fuck alone. I'm nobody's fool.
This is the last time i am addressing this issue. Just know that if you mention my name in regard to anything i had nothing to do with, you have just bought yourself a life time of dealing with false accusations. So go ahead and choke on my matter. Stupid idiots.
Let me go study for my exam. I have time for you people this weekend.
Sting I really wish u would ignore these comments cause the more u talk about it the more air time you are giving these people, silence sometimes is golden, what should matter to you is you know who u are, so whether these people accuse you from now till infinity it doesn't and shouldn't matter to you. Good luck in your exam.
ReplyDeleteI concur with this comment. Silence sometimes is the best way.
DeleteYeah, I have been silent but this is getting out of hand. 2-3 months ago (I don't remember exactly) before things got out of hand, I emailed Eya, asking her to address this issue. She said she would but never did which was when I decided to talk about the touts on wives connection. She said I should ignore the spineless anonymous commenters but eventually it became evident whose side she was really on.
DeleteIt's sound advice to be quiet but I also don't believe I should silently become a fool and allow people to use me as a scapegoat or use me to further their agenda. Like I said, this is the last time I will address this issue because at this point, it needs to be addressed.
I agree with the anonymous comment. The mistake u first made was in responding to them. I was abused on that blog last month, and i recieved lots and lots of emails both good and bad because of what was written about me. I thank God i didn't exchange any words with anyone and the issue went away on its own
ReplyDeleteThank you for not replying them. Those same anonymouses accused me of leaving comments on your blog when I say I'm not a lesbian, they called me all sorts of names.
DeleteThere were questions on my blog asking that I state if I'm a lesbian or not. It was fiery, they asked for a link to your blog and I gave them. A lot of people (Nigerians) came to your blog to see if I'm lesbian. It's over now and I won't want those fights to repeat themselves.
Sorry about the mention and thanks for not hitting back.
Sister ignore those people biko. I kuku saw it today and someone defended you but mentioned religion too. It might be painful and all but just laugh at them and ignore abeg. They spend their seemingly "happy and busy" lives doing market aproko and judging others (especially single ladies, gosh). Just do what I do, go there, use them to catch trips (aka have a good laugh at people's tomfoolery) and leave. Shikena!
ReplyDeleteLest I forget, were they seriously comparing their village meeting to bellanaija?
DeleteCan you imagine! BN should sue jare imagine comparing themselves to a sophisticated world class featured on CNN site like BN abeg make them siddon for village square and yarn nonsense mschewww!
DeleteFirst my dear, I wish you success in your exams. Please concentrate on reading and becoming a doctor, because your services would be required by these same people in the future.
ReplyDeleteIt hurts to be wrongly accused, and like the bold person you are, you spoke out, which is a step to letting out the anger than bottling it up.
You have come a long way, and seen it all in blogsville, and just like others said, DO NOT REPLY THEM, rather address all grievences in your blog,and let the readers in blogsville be the umpire.
Going private,I unfollowed over 200blogs,reading just 10 blogs.So, I am missing a lot of drama in blogsville, because I wanted peace of mind and write for the love of it and for my registered 20 readers only. May,I suggest the same to you my dear and reduce the number of blogs you read, so that you won't be tempted to go blog hopping?
You ahve a bright future ahead of you. Please concentrate on building your career, and make your loved ones proud of you, than listening to words that do not add any value to your life.
I speak out of love and concern for you, my fellow Edo sistah. Oste means beauty, meaning you have a beautiful soul, so let those who know your worth, appreciate you, for who you are, and leave the people in blogsville to their devious scheme because outside this techny-world, it is NOUGHT!
{{{{{Big sistah hug}}}}
Oya,go and read your book now, you hear? :D
Thank God i found you here that your ging private dey vex me small sha. I really miss reading your posts they were so interesting. How about going public again and leaving out the comment section like you had done at first. Or if not how can I register as a reader?
DeleteMe too. I miss reading you blog. If there is a way I can register, I won't mind.
DeleteI am so sorry for that. I just wanted peace.
DeleteKindly send your e-mail address to kibhade@gmail.com
I will send you an invite and you would accept.
Thank you Reader and Eya.
@Eya, yesterday, I went to your blog after this post,{ sorry it was no longer on my blogroll because I only follow my registered readers who have blogs} and read for hours and I was just shaking my head,and wondering when and why Eya allowed it to get to this point?
DeleteYou have to take a drastic step to get your blog back where it was before. I noticed,many blogger ID's as at when you initially started were missing. I saw Myne's once in a while, apart from that,I saw few new bloggers {I checked out their sites}.This shows something has gone wrong when the old bloggers do not comment in a fellow sistah blog as a way of encouragement.
I was aware of the confrontational issue in your blog before I went private and Sting went on sabbatical leave. And the matter was resolved amicably to the best of my knowledge, only for me to read in your older and newer posts the attacks on Sting, and I asked myself, why didn't Eya stop this? You are the hostess of the blog, and everybody should play by the rule of the house, just as a wife is the lady of the manor, and she set her rules.
I would be lying, if I say, I don't know why you allow these, but my dear sistah, a good name they say is better than gold. We all have different reasons for opening a blog, but remember you are not anonymous, and from the comments in your blog, some people actually know who you are and where you live. I like the way relationship issues are brought there to be discussed, but should be done without insults, bickering and mud-slinging.
This is my view as one who cares, but you are not obligated to accept my opinion. Take care sistah, and I hope you do whats right for your blog and readers.
@simply mee, I think you spoke the truth about old bloggers no longer commenting on Eya's blog. I noticed it too. The choice of words and insult on most posts is enough to make anyone who doesn't like "fight" to run away.
Delete@ Madame Sting, pele...ma binu....I think you should take Ibhade's advice and just stay away from Eya's blog so you don't get to give attention to whoever is trying to get you all worked up.
I think i should also add my voice to this matter. I used to read madam Eya's blog because of the recipes and what not. then all these Dear Alice stories started coming yup which was a lil off-putting but the icing on the cake for me was the attack on prism.....i feel like you really care more about the no of hits/ revenue than say your reputation...which is ok..afterall, that is Linda's posture (where you solicited most of your reader's from). i guess for us old bloggers we cant relate because we weren't blogging for money or fame...so its ok...people who don't like (like me) will keep away!
Deletebut i think if you want to take that stance! then see it through...you don't see Linda, going up and down apologizing for comments on her blog.
It seems a bit hypocritical to me all these comments you are leaving here. cuz you have the power to make it stop, but you have decided not to which is fine...so just stick with that posture...you can't have it both ways! you can't be nice and mean...if you get my drift
@ Ibhade, na wa o! was wondering what happened to you. good to know you are well!
DeleteI am well oo. Old age no make me get power to fight again, so I kukuma go siddon for my corner they do my thing jejely :D
DeleteThank you my sistah. How is family? Take care.
Well said, Doll. Voice of reason as always. Yes, she can't have it both ways!
Deleteromance meets life goes there for traffic.
DeleteLet it go. Ogini kwanu?!
ReplyDeleteOgini Kwanu? Easier said than done!
DeleteNot surprised if this is the ezenwanyi herself! She is a big nuisance in aunty eya's blog.
sting, don't mind all these trouble-makers who are miserable in their lives and transfer their frustration on people in blogs.
Oh wow...this is deep and uncalled for.
ReplyDeleteI know like others said you're meant to be mature and ignore it all but some people cannot just sit anonymously behind their pcs and type crap that's hurtful.
IF we could all see each other physically, all these wouldn't be happening at all. There's only so much you can do from a pc as well so ignoring them really is the best way to go
Oya my edo "native doctor" and sister, go and study well for your exams. Don't spare it a moment's thought anymore.
Madam Sting pls ignore them and develop a thick skin. I delete the replace like we are competing. You and Ahdaisy are both very exposed, bold women who can never go under the cover of anonymous to insult anyone.
ReplyDeleteAhdaisy said she knew the person. The ones impersonating her but you name wasn't mentioned. She does not think it's you. The Anonymouses are just trying to stir up trouble again.
If you think they are on my side, read my food posts and see the insults, although I delete some, like the ones about my family yesterday, I can't sleep online deleting cos I think some people sleep online.
Sorry about those comments, I deletded yesterday, the anonymous pasted them back today. I am learning to develop a thick skin so my BP doesn't rise. Pls learn to ignore if you can't respond to the faceless weaklings.
Despite blog fights and all, I can't forget you and you know that. Fights are a part of life. If I do a post on that, it's like adding fuel to fire and I won't dignify them. They won't succeed in turning wives connection into a wrestling arena. God won't let them.
Sorry about it and success in your exams.
Aunty Eya I believe you are part of the problem. If you had nipped this at the bud we would not be posting comments on here. Now you have acknowledged their is a problem and not just with Sting but also Prism as you have stated in your comment above. When innocent people start getting abused on your blog then you have to take action. If I was you I would get rid of the anonymous option and moderate comments.It seems to me you care more about the hits and number of comments than your blogs reputation. Actions speak louder than words. That is all.
DeleteAunty Eya, is this your best explanation?
DeleteI expected better and you did not address the observations bloggers brought to your attention.
bin silent thruout dis blog war (welll, am mostly always silent), first of all *no ass kissing or its sort* *just straight up honest to God facts*, i come to ur blog most times cos its one of d only serious, meaningful yet humorous blogs still around and u dont strike me as d kind of person who goes around commenting on blogs with aliases, i think u have more gumption dan that and u dont seem like d jobless kind dat spends all day on various blogs commenting. *just saying* i mean wot with being in med school and all. well ave found all d pettiness amusing so far and i think u should also find the humor in it and laff it away...afterall wot do u expect? its women we are talking about here lol. tata girl, love u to bits. Muah.
ReplyDeleteProbably one of the best things to come out of technology is the DELETE feature. Now you can delete people out of your life very easily.
ReplyDeleteIf a blog becomes annoying you delete it from your blogroll, if a commenter becomes unbearable you block that individual.
I believe there's enough headache in real life so there's really no need to come and add virtual headache to it.
Are you a christian? real life is not lived that way.
DeleteAnd you are?
DeleteCouldn't agree more, Nollywood Re. Who needs virtual headache? Real ones are enough!
DeleteHi Ms. Sting, this is my first time commenting and i think you should ignore the allegations like everybody has rightly said. I can't imagine what it feels like to always be accused of things you are not guilty of.
ReplyDeleteDo not let it bother you but instead concentrate on things that are really important and things that makes you happy.
Wish you outstanding success in your exams.
Sting Missy, you get time oh! I'll put it down to being young sha. As you get older you go develop tough skin. Why entertain these fools? So disappointed!
ReplyDeleteShouldn't you direct your disappointment at Madam Eya? This could have been nipped in the bud before it got out of hand. This started in April and we are now at the end of June, yet it hasn't ended. Maybe you don't mind having your name bandied around by Internet trolls but I have had enough of it.
DeleteFirst it was anonymous comments, now I am impersonating someone, what's next? Should I quietly wait around in my tough skin and maturity that comes with age to find out? I think not.
If this comes across as immature, then that's fine. I accept it.
Don't be disappointed. She has to clear her name or silence would be seen as consent.
ReplyDeleteMadame Sting, you are one of the blogs i like reading and was angry whenever i come across mischievous comments about you.I am the anonymous that always come to your defense.
ReplyDeleteDo not let these trolls disturb your studies,let them be happy to be local champions in a blog when you are building up your life to be an international medical doctor.
aunty eya is now gating comments,but i wonder how long she can hold that because this is not the first time and her blog is for laughs to many who visits it,please don't take them serious because i don't.
@simply mee. Your reply to sting and eya are just on point!.
ReplyDeleteAnd good to knw all is good with you. Miss your writings.
@doll captured ma thoughts on eya's blog. Loved the blog at the beginning,even sent in a recipe once. And then there was the merging of the food blog and the other one she had. Maybe that's when it all went sideways.
I also noticed the absence of comments from old bloggers.
@eya you can't please everyone. You have to take a stand on what you want your blog to represent.
@sting,all of this isn't funny or easy. And you had ignored it all for a while. Its really annoying to have continued this long. But you've said what's on you mind now,so pls just continue to ignore it all. Its not worth it.
Thank you Tamie. I am sorry for doing the disappearing act. I didn't know your gmail, hence would have sent it to you and moreover, I didn't want to impose it on people, it should be out of choice. Kindly send your e-mail to my box kibhade@gmail.com so I would send you an invitation.
ReplyDeleteSting, please don't let this bother you. I am one of your biggest fan.
ReplyDeletePeople in the know how, knows, Wives connection copies her story from Nairaland and not popular Nigerian forums and pass it as an e-mail post.Example is the undergrad who gave birth and pretended she wrote to her. Many comments wondered how a lady who just underwent a horrifying experience would have the time to log onto Wives connection and send a mail on what to do. This is the link to proof my point. http://www.nairaland.com/1336837/pictures-gal-gave-birth-oau Romance meets life does the same,i laugh anytime i come across these posts. Wives connection rephrase hers, but Romance meets life copy word for word.
You are a blogger that is original in her writing. Keep it up, and don't let people pull you down.
Here is Wivesconnection version from the undergrad in oau.
DeleteShe is a smart shrewd business woman.
http://www.wivestownhallconnection.com/2013/06/what-should-i-do-with-this-baby.html
I think the fast growth of wives connection is what is driving this jealousy from you Anon and others. I read that blog and have sent two of my pesonal stories to her for publication.
DeleteThe advice I got from that blog saved my marriage. That's all I can say. Any blog that grows that fast in so short a period should expect jealousy, hate and boycotting sha.
I love Aunty Eya's blog and this too.
May I also add that Aunty Eya is the only blogger that can take insults from other jealous bloggers and still apologize ontop without insulting back.
ReplyDeleteYes I am her fan and Sting's too. Prove me wrong. Who else goes to apologize and try to make peace? I'm yet to see. I loved it when Sting used to give us her medical advice there before the blog fight started and I hope they make up pretty soon.
FYI Sting don't be fooled by any because you have a clean mind. The day your blog starts growing too fast, many of the bloggers you see now will disappear. It's human nature and it's called jealousy. Be careful and wise, Sting.
Jealousy? It is hyprocrites like you that deceive people.
ReplyDeleteFast growth? On people's tears? Like Ahdaisy, Sting, now creamberry and Tangerine?
2 problems to her? smh, you surely have problems in your marriage. what magic words were said there that common sense would not tell you and prayers would not solve?
You and her voltrons called other people not in support failed bloggers,they are not sycophants like you all.
Aunty Eya, as you read this comment in your mail, be happy with your accomplishments #pun intended# while a young dynamic lady is making progress in her choosen career as a medical doctor and you,an expert on relationship matters, and indomine noodles cook.
#flips my bohemian curls and walks away#
Apologize upon insult? That is a charade. It is the strategy of a cunning mind. You are dealing with a woman advanced in age, who knows how to play the sympathy hand.
ReplyDeleteYou must be a new person in blogging world, because Madame Sting, is a well known name. Check her followers and she is not hungry for traffic to make few bucks.Her medical status already gurantee her millions.
Stop coming here and defending your aunty eya that does no wrong, in your eyes.
Go and write her another mail about your problems in your marriage, when you wives would not learn to respect your husbands. Complaining about every little and nonsensical things there. I and my friends always have a good laugh.