Friday, October 11, 2013

Musings

 It's amazes me how people make their beds but refuse to lie in it in peace. Instead they want to be tensioning innocent people, re-mixing history to suit their purposes, playing victim instead of accepting the fact that they screwed up royally and their shit stinks from here to high heavens. I'm sorry for you my dear. You are the architect of your own misfortune. There's no need to look for someone not to wish you well because you don't wish yourself well. Those who have big eyes will always pay the price. You made your bed, please lie in it and point all five fingers to yourself. Nobody did anything to you, playing the victim is not cute! Maybe one day it will finally sink in to you that money will never be the source of any lasting happiness. Until then, good luck.


 Moving on.....

I just read Ms. Dakara's post.Why do we pick English names for our kids? I don't see white people naming their kids Nigerian (or African) names, so why do we continue this trend? Someone had to enlighten me for me to get it and i'm hoping to do that for someone else. I was always of the Nigerian first name and English middle name bandwagon, until i asked a family friend why him and all his siblings first and middle names were both Nigerian names and he told me his father did not like the idea of naming his kids English/American names, because said people did not give their kids our names. It made sense to me. Something just clicked in my head. The names people are giving their kids these days is concerning. Very americanized names that don't seem to fit. Too many Jaden/Jaydens running around in Nigeria these days. Anyway, what's my own.

I'm blessed to be from two ethnic groups, so i will never have a shortage of names to chose from. I get to pick the names if i get to incubate the child for 9 months. That's my rule. I have an Edo name, igbo name, arabic name, and English name. (I bet i have more names but they are not coming to me right now). My English name is one of the fruits of the spirits. Very common bastardized name like this which i used to hate. The only reason i use it is because it looks good on paper so it's part of my legal documents but i don't like being called the name, never have, never will.

It's 12am. Good morning! 
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14 comments:

  1. PapiOctober 11, 2013 at 12:33 AM

    Good morning Madam siting

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  2. olusimeonOctober 11, 2013 at 1:48 AM

    Good morning Joy.

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  3. Sisi YemmieOctober 11, 2013 at 4:14 AM

    I'm telling you! Every kid in 9ja is a Jaden, Jade, Jandon etc... and the name no fit their face. lol... ooops!

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  4. yujubeeOctober 11, 2013 at 9:38 AM

    Haha.you are right sisyemmie, the name no fit their face at all.I taught it was only me noticing o.the one that makes me laugh most is the parents mispronouncing the name they gave their kid. I've heard a parent calling Heather as heater.i tire.the worst is Angel, no offense , but anytime I see a kid named angel, I just laugh in my mind.i know, I'm a terrible person.

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  5. MyneOctober 11, 2013 at 3:27 PM

    Hmm... I don't have an English name, my father is one of 'those' and I hope to continue in his footsteps. Those that choose to give English names, their choice the world is becoming so global anyway. And yes, white people may not choose Nigerian names, but they sometimes give spanish, etc names. And African Americans also give African Ethnic names sometimes.

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    1. NaijaScorpioOctober 11, 2013 at 5:07 PM

      African Americans don't count because they hv a connection to Africa. So if they give their kids African names it makes more sense than some of the names they make up.

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  6. AnonymousOctober 12, 2013 at 11:44 AM

    Don't have an English name either! But would have loved to have one, because my native name is difficult to pronounce, so i abbreviated it to initials.
    I once talked about playing the victim and sob stories in my older posts.

    http://mytorts.blogspot.com/2013/08/the-victim.html
    http://mytorts.blogspot.com/2013/09/sob-stories.html

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  7. UnknownOctober 12, 2013 at 11:51 AM

    Ayy... I see you, Peace?
    lol
    I see nothing wrong with it but with no accent I prefer to keep one of my names Nigerian. I've always said since I have an english first name, if I marry someone with an english last name I will be going by one of my middle nigerian names. and my children will not have an english name insight.
    After all... people learned by force to pronounce Barack Obama

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  8. UnknownOctober 18, 2013 at 9:37 AM

    My first name is English, and my siblings' traditional names were shortened to English-sounding names, so I "prefer" English names. My parents are from 2 different tribes, neither speaks the other's language, so I'm not particularly tied to traditional names. My fiance and I have agreed that our children will have English first names, and then we will get traditional names from our parents for middle names.

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  9. That African chicNovember 1, 2013 at 12:36 PM

    I don't have an English name and I love it. Most times when people hear my name, it strikes up a conversation. 'Where are you from?' 'Does your name have a meaning'? It just feels good because my name gives me a sense of identity

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